You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be

This insightful book delves into the challenges of modern masculinity, encouraging men to redefine their identities and embrace vulnerability.

In You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be, Martin Robinson embarks on a profound journey to dissect the complexities of modern masculinity. As a magazine journalist and founder of the men's media site The Book of Man, Robinson immerses himself in a variety of experiences, from visiting mental health groups and prisons to engaging with sex activists and Special Forces soldiers. His exploration is raw and candid, revealing the emotional struggles many men face today, often leading to moments of vulnerability that challenge traditional notions of masculinity.

Throughout the book, Robinson reflects on his conversations with experts and individuals from diverse backgrounds, addressing critical issues such as violence, suicide, and the pervasive impact of toxic masculinity. He questions whether men can redefine their identities beyond outdated stereotypes and how they might navigate the shifting landscape of gender relations in a rapidly changing world. The narrative is rich with insights and personal anecdotes, shedding light on the urgent need for men to adopt a new framework for living in the wake of the Digital Age and societal transformations.

You Are Not the Man You Are Supposed to Be is filled with compelling interviews with notable figures, including musicians, authors, and athletes, all of whom contribute to a broader understanding of what it means to be a man today. Robinson's quest ultimately seeks to empower men to embrace new ways of being, fostering a sense of community and connection in a time of uncertainty.