Are You Making Love or Just Having Sex?

Are You Making Love or Just Having Sex? is more than just a book on sex and relationships. It's a practical guide that unveils the profound difference between physical intimacy and deep emotional connection. It combines philosophical insights with hands-on exercises and videos making it an essential read for anyone seeking a truly fulfilling relationship. Successfully demystifying the intricacies of love and sex, it offers transformative steps to achieve enduring love and sexual intimacy. Dive into this compelling journey to discover the secrets to a more meaningful and passionate relationship!—Himani Chaukar, Ph.D., Philosophical Consultant, Associate Professor and Head, Department of Philosophy, Ramnarain Ruia Autonomous College, Mumbai, India.

If you have been looking for love in all the wrong places, this primer on romantic love is the book for you! Cohen proposes virtuous character traits to counteract the cognitive, emotional, and behavioral impediments that are keeping you from enjoying a lasting loving relationship. Complete with supporting philosophies and experiential exercises, this book will help you develop the “lovable habits” that lead to true love.—Laura Newhart, Ph.D., Professor of Philosophy, Eastern Kentucky University, USA.

Love remains a mystery despite extensive debate. In his new book, Cohen argues that true love transcends mere sexual attraction, requiring a blend of emotional, intellectual, and philosophical engagement. He bridges abstract concepts with practical advice, emphasizing the importance of virtues, self-improvement, and philosophical reflection. Rich with wisdom from Eastern and Western philosophies, this book provides a compelling guide for cultivating authentic, lasting love and offers tools to navigate the evolving journey of true intimacy.— Xiaojun Ding, Associate Professor, Department of Philosophy, School of Humanities and Social Sciences, Xi’an Jiaotong University, Xi’an 710049, China.

This book is a passionate and beautifully written self-helping guide to finding authentic romantic love. By aptly adapting the instruments he developed within his deeply original Logic-Based Therapy to the issue of romantic love, Cohen astutely identifies the main cognitive–behavioral obstacles or “dysfunctions” that hinder the attainment of what he calls “the beauty of an enduring love.” A wonderful guide for all seekers of the joy of full love.— Florin Lobont, Full Professor of Philosophy at the Department of Philosophy and Communication Sciences, West University of Timisoara, Romania. 

"Beautiful and insightful, this book draws on Elliot D. Cohen's philosophical acumen to show how to remediate romantic relationships that are somehow incomplete, by using cognitive–behavioral approaches to generate the emotional and behavioral lift needed to enable love to take flight."—James Stacey Taylor, Department of Philosophy, The College of New Jersey, USA.

Dr. Cohen's insightful book offers practical advice that puts music and lyrics to the dance between love and sex. He shares cognitive–behavioral methods and sages’ wisdom, providing a clear path to making deep, intimate connections while avoiding the pitfalls of relationship-wrecking manipulations. This book is a must-read for those seeking more than fleeting passion, offering a hopeful outlook on building a happy, durable, intimate relationship.—Dr. Bill Knaus, Former Director of Postdoctoral Training, Albert Ellis Institute, USA. (Therapist, professor, multi-time best-selling author, one marriage, 48 years, two sons.)

Elliot Cohen's latest book explores the complexities of romantic love and sexual intimacy, masterfully blending cognitive–behavioral understandings with timeless philosophical wisdom. Whether you're navigating a long-term partnership or seeking new love, Cohen's profound insights will enrich your understanding and experience of romantic relationships. An essential and delightful read for anyone.— Laurențiu Staicu, Professor, Faculty of Philosophy, University of Bucharest, Romania.

In this insightful book, readers are guided on a transformative journey that identifies the primary cognitive–behavioral challenges hindering the development of deep, enduring love. The author masterfully reveals how these obstacles can be transcended through a shift in perspective, replacing self-centeredness and needless anxiety with empathy, serenity, and courage. Through timeless wisdom drawn from sages and philosophers, the book introduces "love philosophies" that empower individuals to cultivate authentic love and reshape their relationships positively. This work stands out by offering a cognitive–behavioral approach grounded in philosophical wisdom, encouraging readers to select the philosophies that resonate with them personally rather than dictating a one-size-fits-all solution. By focusing on what enriches rather than diminishes, this book is a valuable guide for anyone seeking lasting love through a holistic, transformative approach. Guy du Plessis, Researcher, I-System Institute for Transdisciplinary Studies, Utah State University, USA; Faculty, Institute for Advanced Psychotherapy, Loyola University Chicago, USA; Author of Building Recovery Resilience: Addiction Recovery and Relapse Prevention Workbook, Cambridge University Press, UK.

"Beautiful and insightful, this book draws on Elliot D. Cohen's philosophical acumen to show how to remediate romantic relationships that are somehow incomplete, by using cognitive–behavioral approaches to generate the emotional and behavioral lift needed to enable love to take flight."—Department of Philosophy, The College of New Jersey, USA.