The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy
Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go
Format:Paperback
Publisher:Jessica Kingsley Publishers
Published:21st Jun '22
Should be back in stock very soon
This essential guide helps readers navigate non-monogamy, emphasizing mental health, self-compassion, and practical advice for every relationship stage, as seen in The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy.
Exploring non-monogamy can be a complex journey, often filled with a mix of excitement and anxiety. In The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy, Lola Phoenix offers a compassionate and practical approach to navigating this terrain. This guide is designed for individuals at any stage of their non-monogamous journey, providing insights into understanding personal motivations, establishing healthy boundaries, and fostering self-compassion. The author emphasizes the importance of mental health and well-being throughout this exploration.
The book begins by addressing the foundational aspects of non-monogamous relationships. Readers are encouraged to reflect on their reasons for pursuing this lifestyle, confront their fears, and practice self-care. As the narrative unfolds, Lola delves into the emotional intricacies of non-monogamy, tackling common issues such as jealousy, judgment, and anxiety. The guidance provided is both realistic and relatable, making it accessible for newcomers and seasoned practitioners alike.
In addition to emotional support, The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy offers practical advice on managing relationships, including scheduling, negotiating boundaries, and setting expectations. Each chapter includes activities designed to deepen understanding and encourage personal growth. This empowering resource equips readers with the tools necessary to thrive in non-monogamous relationships, fostering a sense of independence and happiness along the way.
A refreshingly honest, comprehensive and realistic guide to navigating non-monogamous relationships of all kinds. Packed with nuance, helpful advice, and self-reflections, this is a gem for new and experienced folk alike, especially those of us living at the intersections of disability, oppression and/or trauma. -- Meg-John Barker, author of How to Understand Your Sexuality
Lola Phoenix guides those living in or curious about ethical non-monogamy in their signature no-bullshit, practical guide to polyamory. A refreshing perspective that incorporates self-reflection, personal growth with partners and an emphasis on mental health - healthy caveats when it comes to navigating all relationships, whether polyamorous or not. -- Jenny Yuen, author of Polyamorous: Living and Loving More
Lola Phoenix uses their longtime expertise in the field of non-monogamy to guide those at all levels through common questions, issues and feelings. This wide-ranging, welcoming and inclusive guide is perfect for anyone thinking about stepping outside of monogamy, and invites readers to fully explore their own relationships, desires and mental health on an ongoing basis. Phoenix offers practical tips around anxiety that readers will find invaluable. -- Rachel Kramer Bussel, author, Sex & Cupcakes: A Juicy Collection of Essays, and editor, The Big Book of Orgasms
The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy is a refreshingly inclusive and trauma-informed guide to polyamory. The advice is practical, honest, and engaging. Lola addresses common issues in polyamory with their unique perspective, accurate analogies, and well-rounded thought exercises. Overall, this book is an excellent addition to the body of polyamorous literature and will serve as a useful guide for both new and seasoned non-monogamists. -- Leanne Yau, non-monogamy educator and advocate
Lola Phoenix has written a book about nonmonogamy that feels like an old friend - both reassuring and gently challenging. The Anxious Person's Guide to Non-Monogamy is a must read that encourages one to consider power dynamics as well as personal care in a way that is mindful of trauma while also encouraging growth. If I had read this in my twenties I would have potentially avoided years of grief and self blame. A gem. -- Kitty Stryker, editor of Ask: Building Consent Culture
ISBN: 9781839972133
Dimensions: 214mm x 136mm x 20mm
Weight: 220g
208 pages