The Dry Season
Finding Pleasure in a Year Without Sex
Format:Hardback
Publisher:Canongate Books
Publishing:5th Jun '25
£16.99
This title is due to be published on 5th June, and will be despatched as soon as possible.
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'Brilliant and powerful' ELIZABETH GILBERT
'So full of wisdom and pleasure that you don't want it to end' MAGGIE NELSON
In the wake of a disastrous two-year relationship, Melissa Febos decided to take a break - for three months she would abstain from dating, relationships and sex. Her friends were amused. Did she really think three months was a long time? But to Melissa, it was. Ever since her teens, she had been in one relationship or another. It was time to focus on herself and examine the lifelong patterns that had got her to this point. When those three months ended, she decided to extend her celibate period, fearing that she had not yet gained the clarity she was searching for. She knew she was taking on a challenge but had no idea that this year would become the most fulfilling and sensual of her life.
No longer defined by her romantic pursuits, Melissa learned to relish the delights of solitude, the thrill of living on her own terms, the pleasures unmediated by lovers and the freedom to pursue her ideals without distraction or guilt. She began to see her life and her self-worth in a radical new way. Her year of divestment transformed her relationships with friends and peers, her work, creativity - and most of all her relationship to herself.
The Dry Season is a memoir of Melissa's year of celibacy, and a profound exploration of independence, sexuality and deep self-knowledge.
Reading The Dry Season is like having a nourishing conversation with a smart, wry and ever-probing friend - a conversation so full of wisdom and pleasure that you don't want it to end. The example of Febos's commitment throughout these pages is inspiring and rare; we're lucky and better off for it -- MAGGIE NELSON, author of THE ARGONAUTS
The Dry Season is a brilliant and powerful meditation upon addiction, desire, seduction and the undervalued (and all-too-unexplored) power of a woman laying claim to a period of celibacy [ . . . ]. Febos is both unflinching and compassionate. A deeply important book, I saw myself and many women whom I love and admire on every page -- ELIZABETH GILBERT, author of EAT, PRAY, LOVE
Only Melissa Febos could convince us of the ecstasy of abstinence. She never fails in her candour and precision -- KATHERINE MAY
Melissa Febos is a writer of singular wisdom and compassion, and The Dry Season is an utterly consuming and deeply generous book -- LESLIE JAMISON, author of SPLINTERS
Melissa Febos's The Dry Season will be called a book about abstinence, about celibacy, but it's so much more than that [ . . . ]. It's the best book yet by one of contemporary non-fiction's lodestars -- KAVEH AKBAR, author of MARTYR!
Deftly illuminates how and why one's sense of self is subject to change, mutilate or surrender when in relation to another and asks what happens when that stops. The result is profound - Febos embraces the ability to be alone and in love with oneself. The Dry Season is essential reading -- A.M. HOMES, author of THE UNFOLDING
Only Melissa Febos could write a memoir of her sexual abstinence and make it like a game of Cluedo. A profound, distilled, untying of a complex knot - Febos riddles out the ways we might subjugate ourselves even with the ways we imagine we are liberated -- ALEXANDER CHEE, author of HOW TO WRITE AN AUTOBIOGRAPHICAL NOVEL
Melissa Febos draws us into the depths of obsession and desire, delivering an unflinching yet generous reflection on the formative moments that shape our relationships. This is no ordinary excavation; it's a director's cut of our darkest impulses, a mirror held up to our psyche. This is a dictionary of vulnerability, a guide to understanding the why behind our desires, not just the what. The Dry Season is a testament to the power of self-awareness, a way forward for those brave enough to look back -- SAMRA HABIB, author of WE HAVE ALWAYS BEEN HERE
Praise for Melissa Febos: Febos's own voice is so irreverent and original * * New York Times Book Review * *
Febos is an intoxicating writer * * Atlantic * *
ISBN: 9781837260096
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256 pages
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