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The Non-Monogamy Journal

90+ Scenarios and Questions to Define Boundaries and Make Polyamory Work for You

Lola Phoenix author

Format:Paperback

Publisher:Jessica Kingsley Publishers

Publishing:21st Jan '25

£14.99

This title is due to be published on 21st January, and will be despatched as soon as possible.

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A journal with written activities and prompts to better understand your needs and preferences in non-monogamy.

A journal to help you on your non-monogamy journey, with questions and example scenarios to explore. Topics include: dealing with hierarchies, managing New Relationship Energy, meeting family, STIs, labels, milestones and cohabitation -- as well as OPPs, compersion and cowpoking. Perfect for newbies and poly pros alike.

Finding what works for you in non-monogamy is highly personal and contextual - it can be tricky to know where your own boundaries lie. Quite often, we don't know we want a boundary somewhere, until it has already been crossed. This journal is designed to help you explore and anticipate potential needs and conflicts - perhaps before they've even arisen!

Within these pages are dozens of scenarios to explore, themed around Boundaries, Structure, Emotions, Compromises, Sexuality and Infidelity. With topics that include meeting and managing metamours, beginning relationships with infidelity, cowpoking, sexual health, One Penis Policies, compersion, first nights together - and so many more - this is the perfect companion for working out your own unique approach to non-monogamy.

Even when you've read a lot about relationships, it's easy to avoid really considering potential challenges until you're confronted with them.The Non-Monogamy Workbook provides a comprehensive list of the most common situations that crop up in non-monogamous life, including realistic scenarios to help readers to tune into what they'll feel if - or when - they happen to them. Rather than providing any kind of easy answers, Lola Phoenix guides readers through helpful sets of questions to enable them to create their own route-maps for how to navigate relationship agreements, conflicts, boundaries, tough feelings, community tensions, and more. An invaluable relationship resource. -- Meg-John Barker, Author of Rewriting the Rules and How To Understand Your Relationships.
The Non-Monogamy Journal is a clarifying and empowering journal for readers navigating the nuanced waters of non-monogamy. By presenting real-life scenarios and challenges, Lola empowers us to clarify our needs; honor where we might need boundaries; and envision how to communicate with our partners in a grounded way. It's incredibly practical, helping us devise concrete road maps for navigating some of non-monogamy's most difficult and rewarding terrains. The Non-Monogamy Journal a must-read for anyone wishing to embrace non-monogamy with integrity, clarity, and fierce self-possession. -- Hailey Magee, author of STOP People Pleasing and Find Your Power
I want to nominate Lola Phoenix to host a polyamory-themed TV game show! They present every messy, complicated poly drama imaginable, and although it will make you squirm, it really helps you think through solutions. Check it out!" -- Kathy Labriola, author of The Polyamory Break-up Book
The Non-Monogamy Journal is so practical and helpful. For anyone who feels lost or unsure about where to even start, these prompts and questions are really valuable. -- Genevieve King, @chillpolyamory
Lola Phoenix has once again delivered an invaluable resource for anyone practicing or exploring non-monogamy. As a psychosexual relationship therapist specialising in Gender, Sex, and Relationship Diversity, I can already see how this journal will benefit my clients. With comprehensive scenarios and thoughtful prompts, it provides essential guidance for individuals, couples, and constellations navigating the complex terrain of non-monogamous relationships. Whether you're new to non-monogamy or a seasoned practitioner, The Non-Monogamy Journal offers reflection and insight that is both practical and profound. -- Genevieve Collister Brown

ISBN: 9781805014225

Dimensions: 390mm x 264mm x 226mm

Weight: 504g

224 pages