Why Men Hurt Women and Other Reflections on Love, Violence and Masculinity

Using conversations, observations, and reflections on his personal experiences, work with men, and scholarship, psychologist Kopano Ratele meditates on love, violence and masculinity.

Peppered with conversations, observations, and reflections on his personal experiences, work with men, and scholarship, Kopano Ratele meditates on love, violence and masculinity in this book at whose centre is the question of why men hurt others and themselves.

This book seeks to imagine the possibility of a more loving masculinity in a society where structural violence, failures of government and economic inequality underpin much of the violent behaviour that men display. Enriched with personal reflections on his own experiences as a partner, father, psychologist and researcher in the field of men and masculinities, Why Men Hurt Women and Other Reflections on Love, Violence and Masculinity is Kopano Ratele’s meditation on love and violence, and the way these forces shape the emotional lives of boys and men.
Blending academic substance and rigour in a readable narrative style, Ratele illuminates the complex nuances of gender, intimacy and power in the context of the human need for love and care. While unsparing in its analysis of men’s inner lives, Ratele lays out a path for addressing the hunger for love in boys and men. He argues that just as the beliefs and practices relating to gender, sexuality and the nature of love are constantly being challenged and revised, so our ideas about masculinity, and men’s and boys’ capacity to show genuine loving care for each other and for women, can evolve.