Otherwise

"In the superb autobiographical essays of Otherwise, Wade illuminates sexual orientation and body image issues. Nine intricate pieces reflect on risk, bodily autonomy, gender roles, and poetry versus prose. A series of meditations composed across Wade’s thirties arranges snapshots of her growing frustration with stereotypes about behavior and appearance. In particular, Wade interrogates her rosy childhood notions of marriage, which she saw as a chief goal in life.. . . Otherwise is a stunning and nuanced memoir- in-essays that insists on queer visibility." * Foreword starred review *
"In the superb autobiographical essays of Otherwise, Wade illuminates sexual orientation and body image issues. Nine intricate pieces reflect on risk, bodily autonomy, gender roles, and poetry versus prose. A series of meditations composed across Wade’s thirties arranges snapshots of her growing frustration with stereotypes about behavior and appearance. . . . Otherwise is a stunning and nuanced memoir-in-essays that insists on queer visibility." * Booklist starred review *
Finalist, LGBTQ+ Nonfiction * 2024 Lambda Literary Awards *
Finalist * 2023 Big Other Book Award for Nonfiction *
“‘Once a woman dreamed she was a butterfly,’ Wade writes in Otherwise, her multi-tongued collection that both casts and breaks spells. These are essays about looking inside, coming out. About language’s fluidity. Poetry that is prose, prose that is poetry. Gender and identity. Beauty and power. Fracture and flourishing. Or maybe a butterfly, Wade writes, dreamed she was a woman.” -- Karen Salyer McElmurray, author of Wanting Radiance
“The essays in Wade’s gorgeous collection rearrange the boundaries of form and invent new shapes to accommodate the wildness and tenderness of an authentic self in the process of becoming. Her intimate, up-close portraits are both unnervingly truthful and, at the same time, studies in complexity and compassion. From stories of a decentered younger self, required to try on the assumptions of heterosexual norms, to sharp-eyed critiques of the violence those norms do to the soul, Wade’s work illustrates the courage and creativity necessary to come into one’s own hard won rage—and joy.” -- Lia Purpura, author of All the Fierce Tethers
“Wade’s essays rule. Their delightful lightness, their acuity, their roving intelligence, their handling of fragments, their depth. Otherwise proves—again—that she’s one of our very best and most adventurous essayists. Lucky you, discovering or rediscovering her now, holding this book at this very moment, the two of us meeting in this sentence! Make the commitment now to getting more Wade in your life. If you’re not completely, 100% satisfied, I’ll give you your money back.” -- Ander Monson