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Six in a Bed

The Future of Love - from Sex Dolls and Avatars to Polyamory

Roanne van Voorst author Liz Waters translator

Format:Hardback

Publisher:John Wiley and Sons Ltd

Published:19th Apr '24

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Love is the most important and intense experience of our life. It pushes us to elation, to heartbreak, to sing for joy and sob in disappointment. Connecting in this way to others is an essential quality of being human: without love, we don’t learn and develop properly as children and we don’t flourish as adults – in short, we’re starved of what we need.

But love is on the verge of monumental change. Sex robots are already on the market, polyamory is gaining ground, drugs are being developed that can make you fall in love, and AI and robotics are set to revolutionize how we relate to each other. Debates about whether more than two people should be able legally to get married are heating up; at the same time, an increasing number of people have decided to stay single and who go by the name of sologamists.

The futures anthropologist Roanne van Voorst spent three years researching love’s fluid landscape and immersing herself in today’s latest trends to gain insight into the human of tomorrow. She cultivated a virtual friendship, hired a rentable friend and an erotic masseuse, shared a bed with sex dolls and flirted with artificial intelligence. She dated and danced in a virtual world, spoke to polyamorists, sologamists, sex workers, pansexuals, asexuals, heterosexuals, homosexuals, men, women, and people who don’t accept the binary gender label. She wanted to know how changes to love are changing our species. This book is her brilliantly engaging answer.

“A charming, insightful, and fearless guide to the new frontiers of sexuality.”
Steven Pinker, Harvard University and author of How the Mind Works

“Roanne van Voorst is one of the Dutch writers I admire most. She’s radical and nuanced, idealistic and open-minded. Whatever she writes about, each time she broadens your horizons and opens your world.”
Rutger Bregman, author of Humankind: A Hopeful History

“As an anthropologist, Roanne van Voorst has the ideal method for gaining insight into something as corporeal as the future of intimacy: she immerses herself in the worlds she wants to understand … Searching for practices that liberate love requires an open mind, which is precisely what she possesses. Empty moralising has no chance with her.”
Marjan Slob, De Volkskrant

“Van Voorst ultimately sounds a cautious note that none of these great technological or chemical inventions can really replace the surprising (and we might even say, endearingly annoying) aspects of human interaction…Without human interaction, or its replacement by images, disembodied voices and screens, we will not develop; we will get no feedback on our behaviour. If we outsource our decisions to machines, particularly about love, we will be reneging on a central feature of our humanity itself.”
The Critic

“excellent”
Miranda France, Times Literary Supplement

ISBN: 9781509558421

Dimensions: 234mm x 160mm x 31mm

Weight: 544g

344 pages