Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege

"This book alerts psychotherapists to the hidden emotional trauma of boarding school. Case histories show how deceptive appearances can be. Many boarding children grow up with chronic anxiety, despite leading busy, conscientious, adult lives; they struggle with close relationships having learnt to dissociate and to project disowned feelings onto others. A helpful addition to a growing literature on this peculiar aspect of British life." – Sue Gerhardt, author of Why Love Matters and The Selfish Society

"British independent boarding schools are frequently seen as the envy of the world. This provocative book – based on twenty-five years of therapeutic practice – suggests that far from being models of excellence, they are the source of psychological distress which mars the lives even of those who appear to be their most successful products. Passionate engagement, exceptional clinical experience and case studies which portray the anguish of the human soul make this an impressive book which should be required reading for therapists, educationists and politicians. It may also prove a life-saver for many boarding school ‘survivors’." - Brian Thorne, Emeritus Professor of Counselling, University of East Anglia, Co-founder, the Norwich Centre for Personal, Professional and Spiritual Development

"Informed by a wealth of experience Bassett and Duffell have created a valuable and timely resource for therapists and counsellors.Vivid examples from workshops and testimony from boarding school survivors build a convincing picture of the ‘strategic survival personality’. Informed by theory the book is accessible and practical; it offers suggestions on technique, including exercises and questions for practitioners. It will equip the professional reader to identify and work with this client group and offers significant insights for ex-boarders. This is an excellent and lively contribution to the growing literature in this field." - Professor Joy Schaverien PhD, Jungian Psychoanalyst and author of Boarding School Syndrome: The Psychological Trauma of the Privileged Child’

"Basset and Duffell have written a helpful, lucid and controversial book that sets out the fruits of 30 years work with this newly recognised and challenging client group. Using real life case studies they show how a, so-called, ‘privileged' education, based in a style of 'attachment breaking institutionalisation with its roots in Victorian hyper- masculinity', has a cost for individuals and society as a whole. The case studies show how painstaking psychotherapy can offer a route to helping these clients reclaim their humanity. This is a follow up to nick's groundbreaking 'The Making of Them' - which stripped the veil from the culturally acceptable face ofpublic school education." - Adam Jukes

"This book alerts psychotherapists to the hidden emotional trauma of boarding school. Case histories show how deceptive appearances can be. Many boarding children grow up with chronic anxiety, despite leading busy, conscientious, adult lives; they struggle with close relationships having learnt to dissociate and to project disowned feelings onto others. A helpful addition to a growing literature on this peculiar aspect of British life." – Sue Gerhardt, author of Why Love Matters and The Selfish Society

"British independent boarding schools are frequently seen as the envy of the world. This provocative book – based on twenty-five years of therapeutic practice – suggests that far from being models of excellence, they are the source of psychological distress which mars the lives even of those who appear to be their most successful products. Passionate engagement, exceptional clinical experience and case studies which portray the anguish of the human soul make this an impressive book which should be required reading for therapists, educationists and politicians. It may also prove a life-saver for many boarding school ‘survivors’." - Brian Thorne, Emeritus Professor of Counselling, University of East Anglia, Co-founder, the Norwich Centre for Personal, Professional and Spiritual Development

"Informed by a wealth of experience Bassett and Duffell have created a valuable and timely resource for therapists and counsellors.Vivid examples from workshops and testimony from boarding school survivors build a convincing picture of the ‘strategic survival personality’. Informed by theory the book is accessible and practical; it offers suggestions on technique, including exercises and questions for practitioners. It will equip the professional reader to identify and work with this client group and offers significant insights for ex-boarders. This is an excellent and lively contribution to the growing literature in this field." - Professor Joy Schaverien PhD, Jungian Psychoanalyst and author of Boarding School Syndrome: The Psychological Trauma of the Privileged Child

"Basset and Duffell have written a helpful, lucid and controversial book that sets out the fruits of 30 years work with this newly recognised and challenging client group. Using real life case studies they show how a, so-called, ‘privileged' education, based in a style of 'attachment breaking institutionalisation with its roots in Victorian hyper- masculinity', has a cost for individuals and society as a whole. The case studies show how painstaking psychotherapy can offer a route to helping these clients reclaim their humanity. This is a follow up to nick's groundbreaking 'The Making of Them' - which stripped the veil from the culturally acceptable face ofpublic school education." - Adam Jukes

"Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege is a must-read for any and every therapist who has worked, is working or may work with clients in connection with boarding school, in whatever capacity... Anyone who has any experience of and/or interest in the phenomenon of boarding as a practice dating back over centuries, which remains ‘alive and kicking’ today, will find this a compelling read... A powerful book – much needed and not to be overlooked: by therapists, clients and the wider world." - Jane Barclay, Psychotherapist

"While boarding schools are far less harsh environments compared with 50 Uears ago, 'the trauma of separation and loss of familg is still the same. Attachments are still deliberatelg broken'. So, while attending boarding school mag be less of a'Big T'trauma, it still constitutes a'tittle t' trauma.l Consequentlg, the impact of boarding school remains an issue for the boarders of todag and the ex-boarders of tomorrow, (sadlg) confirming this book's importance both now and for gears to come." - Helen Corderg

"The book offers case histories, diagrams and exercises and is divided into three parts (recognition, acceptance and change), covering the emotional processes of boarding and the psychological aspects of survival; steps towards recovery and repercussions of survival. It also explores how ex-boarders frequently struggle with intimate relationships and offers interventions and strategies for those working with exboarder clients." - Human Givens Journal

"This will prove a valuable resource for therapists working with adults who have experienced the boarding school system and who are seeking therapy to address concerns in later life. It may also be useful for other mental health workers – having been to boarding school may not present as the primary issue but may emerge as a contributing factor during therapeutic work. Recognition work is identified as the first stage in helping adults who have been adversely affected by this type of education and this book helps therapists to identify this. It gives them some tools to work with and some timely warnings of what to expect in terms of transference." - Alison Blank