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The Queer Parent

Everything You Need to Know From Gay to Ze

Lotte Jeffs author Stuart Oakley author

Format:Hardback

Publisher:Pan Macmillan

Published:11th May '23

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The ultimate parenting handbook for LGBTQ+ people, from the hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families.

'I am so glad this book is here, and only sorry it didn't arrive sooner.' - Sandi Toksvig

This informative, funny and empowering book from the hosts of the award-winning podcast Some Families is the must-have parenting toolkit for the LGTBQ+ community, their friends, family and allies.

‘Answers every question you could have about LGBTQ+ families. A must read.’ - Will Young


LGBTQ+ people have more options than ever before when it comes to starting a family, but a lack of both focused information and mainstream representation can leave parents, prospective parents, friends and relatives in the dark.

Authors Lotte Jeffs and Stu Oakley spoke to dozens of experts and queer families, and this hugely-needed book is the product of those conversations and their own experiences of becoming parents through IUI and adoption respectively.

90% of queer parenting is just . . . parenting, but being LGBTQ+ when you’re a parent does bring with it a host of conundrums that mainstream guides – which tend to assume heterosexuality – do not address.

From adoption, surrogacy, fertility treatment and other routes to parenthood, to donors, trans parenting, how to deal with family-focused homophobia, coming out at the school gates and much more, The Queer Parent is a groundbreaking toolkit for LGBTQ+ parents, parents-to-be, and anyone looking to support their journey. It is a book that redefines the family for the modern age.

'I wish this book had been available when my kids were young. It would have made me feel less alone.' -- Mary Portas
An indispensable and urgently necessary guide to parenthood in all its forms -- Elizabeth Day
'A fantastic read. Full of knowledge, empathy, laughs and above all hope.' - Suzi Ruffell
Not only does this book need to exist but queer parents like Lotte and Stu needed to step up and write it themselves. I for one am ecstatic that they have. -- Freddy McConnell
Eye-opening and a vital read for understanding how LGBTQ+ parents are redefining family structures. -- Anna Whitehouse, AKA Mother Pukka
Answers every question you could have about LGBTQ+ families. A must read. -- Will Young
A wonderful book – one that both queer families and allies alike will find kind, necessary and funny. -- Alexandra Heminsley
A fresh take on parenting from two funny and empathetic modern writers. Straight people should read this book! I learnt so much. -- Lorraine Candy
This book is a vital insight into the spectrum of modern family. -- Chris Sweeney, Homo Sapiens podcast
Clever, moving and hilarious in parts too – this is a brilliant read for all parents. -- Lena de Casparis, Associate Editor ELLE
A beacon of support, information, reassurance and hope. -- Romy, The xx

ISBN: 9781035001828

Dimensions: 223mm x 145mm x 38mm

Weight: 510g

304 pages