Growing Through the Erotic Transference

'A very fine piece of work, opening up how Moore’s erotic life was able to unfold in her analysis. Delicately and at the same time passionately told, this is a valuable picture into therapy from an analysand’s experience.'

Susie Orbach, author of Fat is a Feminist issue (1978), The Impossibility of Sex (2000) and ten other books on psychoanalysis; Fellow of the Royal Society of Literature; and recipient of Lifetime Achievement Award from the British Psychoanalytic Society

'This is an impressive book by Frances Moore. With an authoritative voice she gives an honest account of the patient's experience of the frustrations and the benefits of the erotic transference in psychotherapy. With a rare and valuable insight from the patient's point of view she gives both a lively and a well-researched expression of the therapeutic process as it is lived and understood.'

David Mann, author of Psychotherapy - An Erotic Relationship: Transference and Countertransference Passions (1997); editor of Erotic Transference and Countertransference: Clinical Practice in Psychotherapy (1999) and Love and Hate: Psychoanalytic Perspectives (2002); and psychoanalytic psychotherapist in Tunbridge Wells

'This is a story of the ever-present erotic dimension of analysis and how it transforms and intensifies lived experience. Though a layperson – thankfully!– Moore wrestles with complicated themes, e.g., how different forms of erotic transferences can defend against one another, co-exist (background sensuality and sexual desire) and ultimately promote growth. With precise and truthful articulation, Moore describes erotic love as the basis of elemental passions and human core vitality.'

'This is a story of how a woman becomes receptive to her own potency, learning to harness her power and beauty. Through her eyes, we also experience a calm and unafraid analyst willing to go the distance. Anyone doubting the usefulness of erotic transferences as an essential transformational power should read this book.'

Andrea Celenza, author of Erotic Revelations (2014), Sexual Boundary Violations (2007) and Transference, Love, Being: Essential Essays from the Field (2022); training and supervising analyst, Boston Psychoanalytic Society and Institute

'Growing Through the Erotic Transference is a brave and detailed account from the analysand’s perspective of parts of an analysis of a cis-gender heterosexual divorced woman in her 40s by her male analyst, with a special focus on the erotic transference within the treatment [...] Moore’s text is a moving exploration of some selected erotic dimensions of what appears to have been a very transformative treatment with a skillful analyst. Her points about women having real fears rooted in socialization and experiences of sexual violence that should not be dismissed as merely resistance, are warranted. Her refreshing idea that there might be room for powerful women who are more classically feminine is also important and her call for (male) analysts to consider exploring the erotic fears and desires as well as fears and desires for power rather than trying to get off on their own power as a function of the asymmetry is reasonable. I would add that this text suggests a call for women analysts to perhaps write more on these topics and for any analytic pair, regardless of the gender or sexual orientation of the analysand or the analyst to be subject to consideration about how the erotic material and power dynamics are being held. It is high time that we expand original binary notions of male/female, masculinity/femininity and gay/straight (even as these may be very useful in particular treatments) and come to see the issues of power, competition and erotic feelings infusing all relationships in some fashion and analyze these fully with fluidity and bravery as gateways to transformation.'

Nicolle Zapien is a licensed clinician with two decades of experience. She is currently a candidate training at the Psychoanalytic Institute of Northern California (PINC). To read this review in full please see the following: Zapien, N. (2022). Book Review Essay: “Growing Through the Erotic Transference: An Analysand’s Journey” by Frances H. Moore. European Journal of Psychoanalysis, Vol. 9, No. 2: https://www.journal-psychoanalysis.eu/articles/book-review-essay-growing-through-the-erotic-transference-an-analysands-journey-by-frances-h-moore/.

"Her courageous account of a five-year analysis....is a loving gift to us as reader-analysands as well as a message to her classically oriented, abstinent analyst." "[her reflections are] clarifying and moving, and leave a lasting impression on the reader"... "her erudition, bravery, and many insights make Growing Through the Erotic Transference a pleasurable and instructive read."

Anna Fishzon, PhD, is a licensed psychoanalyst and advanced candidate at the Institute for Psychoanalytic Training and Research (IPTAR) in New York. To read this review in full please see the following: Fishzon, A., (2023) Review of Growing through the erotic transference: An analysand’s journey [Review of the book Growing through the erotic transference: An analysand’s journey, by F. H. Moore]. Psychoanalytic Psychology. Advance online publication. https://doi.org/10.1037/pap0000472