Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief

I didn’t just read this book—I consumed it. Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief is raw and fecund, heartbreaking, wise, wickedly funny, and razor sharp—one woman’s brave and vulnerable navigation of the daily pathos and joy that ultimately tells the story of the human condition. At times, the sheer craft of Jessica Hendry Nelson's writing stopped my breath and made me immediately re-read a passage just so that I could experience it again.

Jessica Hendry Nelson’s Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief is a stunning, hilarious, propulsive book—somehow breathless and thoughtful at once—that I’ll remember for the rest of my days. It is ruthlessly insightful but always merciful, never precious but always profound—written with a close, awestruck attention to the lush particulars of this world, its unexpected provisions of grace. It is full of surprising love songs—to gatherings of women, acts of caregiving and strange community, fraught friendships; to students and strange lessons; to various fruitful forms (the list, the letter, the shard); to the condition of loving flawed and self-thwarting people (all of us), and—most of all—to the terrifying, saving entanglement of suffering and wonder.

* author of The Recovering: Intoxication and Its Aftermath *

This raw and lyrical memoir beckons forth the all of life—birth, joy, death, grief—to posit wonder as a necessary means of survival. At once tender and devastating, I’ve never read anything like it.

* author of The Year of the Horses *

Jessica Hendry Nelson’s Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief is a memoir of 'contradictory truths'—where a father is dead and alive all at once, where the past is as present as the word now in a world 'so full of love and longing and wonder and grief and fear.' It is an elegy. It is a love song. It is a cry to women to renew their bonds with one another. It is a sister’s lament, and it is a dirge for a marriage gone under. It is also a book-length braided meditation on the act of creation itself—from the creation of life to the creation of story.

* author of My Life as a Foreign Country *

For Jessica Hendry Nelson, the seams and edges of experience and feeling, the places most alive and frightening in their vulnerability, beauty, and rage are also places ripe with wonder. This is 'a book of impossible questions,' she writes. Beautifully wrought questions, I’d add—ones burnished by the intense beam of her attention. Among the most poignant: How to love those who are simultaneously here and not here? En route to her own true north, Nelson offers the very thing all readers yearn for: a heart’s companion.

* author of All the Fierce Tethers and It Shouldn’t Have Been Beautiful *

While—true to its name—this book certainly holds at its center the true gravity of real and anticipatory grief, unenviable but inevitable, Jessica Hendry Nelson’s Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief thrums most with the urgency of life and wanting: to consume, to be consumed, to create, to destroy, and most of all to be salve and protection; more than anything, Nelson’s writing explores with fearlessness and ferocity the urgent and unwavering pull to create despite the wake of male indecision and carelessness. Less a flattened portrayal of grief than a dimensional, contemporary portrait of what it is to exist as a woman in this world, Nelson’s is an invigorating and refreshing testament to the competing pulls of love, fear, and desire.

* author of Mothertrucker *

Joy Rides through the Tunnel of Grief is the book I've been looking for on my shelf for decades. Nothing exists quite like it; it was the missing book.Compassionate, intellectual, surprising, and impeccably crafted, this memoir holds your darkest nights and most elated joys.

* author of Women and The Red Zone *

Jessica Hendry Nelson’s Joy Rides Through the Tunnel of Grief is an intricate and breathtaking tapestry of beauty, wonder, and longing. It’s as tender and resplendent as a cherry blossom tree at peak bloom. This is the work of a writer at the top of her form; the kind of book that can’t be summarized and can only be experienced.

* Writer and Editor of WHAT MY MOTHER AND I DON'T TALK ABO