The Gift of Coaching: Love over Fear in Helping Conversations

In this book Erik de Haan encourages coaches to reflect on their coaching practices and reassess the tensions within the coaching relationship. Across its three sections this book is about developing trust, nurturing love in response to fears and tensions, and practicing humility as your confidence and success as a coach grows. 

Drawing on his long career, De Haan offers personal and thought-provoking advice for coaches. He highlights the benefit of making use of what happens before you start a session, listening to what is not being said, and disclosing all informational advantage you might have over your client. 

This book: 
• Features an array of personal experiences and helpful ideas to put into practice 
• Includes insights and reflections on coaching relationships to apply to all helping relationships 
• Uses a relational and inclusive approach to resolve the complex tensions inherent in coaching relationships 
• Explores the richness of listening, engaging, and understanding, as well as recognising the value of humility. 

The Gift of Coaching illustrates how coaching can help us process and integrate everyday fears and anxieties towards a place of love and acceptance for ourselves and our relationships. This is an entertaining, erudite and insightful read for both beginners and experienced consultants, coaches, and supervisors.

Erik de Haan is the Director of Ashridge's Centre for Coaching with thirty years of experience in executive coaching and other organizational and leadership development. He is Professor of Organisation Development at the VU University Amsterdam, with an MSc in Theoretical Physics and a PhD in Physics with his research into learning and decision-making processes in perception. He has a registered psychodynamic psychotherapist and has authored more than 200 articles and sixteen books.

“De Haan takes a forensic look at what it means to nurture another person’s experience and in so doing produces an essential and immensely powerful book.”
Marina Cantacuzino MBE, Founder of The Forgiveness Project

“Erik opens a window into his deep learning which will be of significant benefit to both new and experienced coaches.”
Gina Lodge, CEO, Academy of Executive Coaching (AoEC)

“'The Gift of Coaching' is a compendium of coaching research, wisdom, and case study examples.”
Joel DiGirolamo, VP...