Not by Nature but by Grace

"Gilbert Meilaender writes as a Christian, and he finds help in sorting through his perspective from Muslim and Jewish sources. His tone is patient (even when discussing arguments he finds wrongheaded) pulling out the best and the worst strands in questions regarding adoption, artificial reproductive technologies, and cryopreserved embryos. The chapters are informative and winsomely written. He has also notably managed to bring books I read to my daughters together with arcane theological documents that are relevant, but tricky to introduce." —Amy Laura Hall, Duke Divinity School

"Readers of Meilaender’s work have come to expect beautiful prose wedded to probing theological and ethical analysis. Both are in evidence in this engaging exploration of how adoption challenges Christians to understand the complex balancing of nature and history that is required for a proper understanding of family life. That Meilaender can weave together literature, philosophy, theology, and personal experience so seamlessly in developing his account of adoption is a marvel." —Paul Lauritzen, John Carroll University

"One of the great theological ethicists of our generation, Gil Meilaender has gifted us with a book that is absolutely essential reading for anyone whose life is touched by adoption and wants to make moral sense of it. Meilander’s pithy, lucid style is perfect for conveying deep theological truths, and his arguments are consistently compelling and civil. Having lived a life with adopted children, Meilaender shows us deep and abiding wisdom on every page." —John Berkman, Regis College, University of Toronto

“'[S]hared history—not just biology—can create a bond between parent and child,' [Gilbert Meilaender] says. The center of his concern is 'the meaning of adoption for Christian theology,' and he discusses such issues as whether single persons should adopt, if it is wise for adoption to take place across racial or national boundaries, and the relation between adoption and new reproductive technologies." —Notre Dame Magazine

"As Meilaender points out, current estimates are that, worldwide, 17–18 million children are orphans. . . . Meilaender's fine and accessible book is an important start in thinking about forming families and the implications of our commitment to them." —Christian Century

“Meilaender analyzes ethical questions that bear on us all, and not merely adoptive parents, because the question of adoption also raises the question of what it means to be human.” —Lutheran Quarterly

"[We] should approve of those who are willing to cross boundaries of nation and culture to adopt children who need a home. I feel the same way about adoption across racial boundaries, although we all know how complex this is in the United States because of the troubled history of race relations here." —Crux

“. . . what makes the book endearing is that he combines theological reasoning about adoption together with letters to his son. . . . Meilaender has written a thought-provoking and eloquent book that deserves to be read not only by those interested in the topic of adoption, but by all Christians seeking to know more about what it means to be heirs of God’s kingdom.” —Studies in Christian Ethics