My Brilliant Friends

In this astute, passionate, rigorously honest book about her friendships with three extraordinary women, Miller delineates the mysterious geography of those attachments we are not born into, but choose freely. The longing, pain, confusion, envy, and joy that inhabit the often unarticulated distance between "me” and “you” are so alive on these pages, they are still resonating inside me. I loved reading this book. -- Siri Hustvedt, author of A Woman Looking at Men Looking at Women
In My Brilliant Friends, Nancy K. Miller depicts the life-altering importance of deep and nourishing friendships between and among women. Through vivid details and Miller’s singular point of view, we witness her transformative relationships with Carolyn Heilbrun, Naomi Schor, and Diane Middlebrook and their enduring love, growth, and collective power. -- Min Jin Lee, author of Free Food for Millionaires and Pachinko, a finalist for the National Book Award
Of Nancy K. Miller's many illuminating books, My Brilliant Friends may be my favorite—for its sculpted lucidity, its lancing details, its interlocking plots, and its virtuoso attention to emotional ambivalence. Like Hilton Als's The Women, Miller's book is a classic triple-decker account of entanglement and rupture. She reminds us, with a witty yet mournful gracefulness, that every friendship is a complex work of art, demanding fastidious analysis and enraptured recounting. -- Wayne Koestenbaum, author of My 1980s & Other Essays
A new book by Nancy K. Miller is always a treat. This compulsively readable triptych of her friendships with Carolyn Heilbrun, Naomi Schor, and Diane Middlebrook will touch, delight, and enlighten anyone who has grown up under the influence of feminism. -- Susan Gubar, author of The Woman Writer and the Nineteenth-Century Literary Imagination
Nancy K. Miller writes with shimmering intelligence, grace, courage, and hard-won candor about her friendships with three other significant writers, all feminists, now all dead: Carolyn Heilbrun, Naomi Schor, and Diane Middlebrook. Miller herself is surviving cancer. Both heartbreaking and life-sustaining, My Brilliant Friends proves that death can be the mother of beauty. -- Catharine R. Stimpson, University Professor and Dean Emerita, Graduate School of Arts and Science, New York University
Nancy K. Miller has a gift for friendship and a mind for memoir. Reflecting on feminism, ambition, competition, and loss in these candid, tender stories of three passionate women intellectuals who died too soon, she has given a gift to readers who know the importance and complexity of female friendship. -- Elaine Showalter, professor emerita of English, Princeton University
I loved reading My Brilliant Friends. It’s a fascinating and revealing look at the texture—good and bad—of feminist friendships, and, crucially, academic life for women. It is also an inspiring testament to three remarkable feminists, each operating in her own style. An important book for generations of feminists—those established, and those to come. -- Hillary Chute, author of Graphic Women: Life Narrative and Contemporary Comics
A stunning elegy to the intimacy of friendships among women, and a book in which closeness is felt through the act of thinking. -- Maggie Taft * Booklist (starred review) *
The result is a compassionate homage to the book’s three extraordinary subjects. My Brilliant Friends is not memoir as therapy, but memoir as monument....Unlike so many confessional documents, My Brilliant Friends is written in a genuinely exceptional circumstance by a genuinely exceptional person. * Times Literary Supplement *
A pellucid and absorbing study on the ambivalent and less frequently explored facets of friendship – the painful coexistence, for instance, of envy, competitiveness, and resentment, on the one hand, and love and admiration, on the other. * Contemporary Women's Writing *
Miller is a nimble writer, more than capable of exploring a larger world. And the world of women's friendships contain multitudes. * Women's Review of Books *
It really doesn't get much better than this for me. -- Nina Collins * What Would Virginia Woolf Do? *
Miller’s book, a brave and beautiful act of storytelling, is itself a gift — to her brilliant friends, to feminism, to friendship, to the literary endeavor, and to all of her readers. -- Jenny McPhee * Los Angeles Review of Books *
The book offers contemporary feminist literary scholars an evocative, resonant chance to consider the nature of scholarly friendship, as well as how much has (and has not) changed for women in academe. * Tulsa Studies in Women's Literature *
It is a conversation, not only with lost friends, but with the reader. . . Recommended. * Choice *
The retrospective look at the fabric of her life as interwoven with the lives of other women is as much an homage to her friends as it is an elegy to friendship itself. * Literature Salon *
Valuable to students of literary criticism and feminism as well as history and even psychology. It is such a specific evocation of a particular time and place, and it simultaneously engages the emotions in its reflection on love and loss. * RGWS *
Miller recognizes the transformative power and centrality of the nitty-gritty in women’s outer and inner lives, and the vital, enduring friendships they form. * a/b: Auto/Biography Studies *
Miller characterizes these friendships as collaborative, competitive, nurturing, and occasionally confounding. * Public Books *